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<blockquote><div class="quotetitle">Quote from <a class="profile-link highlight-default" href="https://stoicplanet.com/user/17">Thomas Flanger</a> on February 8, 2025, 1:52 pm</div>hello mate! I am sorry that this happened to you but we have all been there at various points of our life.
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my advise to you i assume you’ve been on this planet for over 20 years, and you were with this woman for only 4 months. You can absolutely live another 20 years, or more, without her. Right now, you’re feeling overwhelmed, but that’s just emotions clouding your judgment. From a sober perspective, you’ll see that you haven’t lost much. She was not the right woman for you—she was still emotionally attached to someone else while she was with you. That alone tells you everything you need to know. From a Stoic perspective, this isn’t about failure. You were tested and this minor event shook you. That’s not an insult—it’s an opportunity to grow. If you were truly indifferent to external events, this wouldn’t shake you. But right now, your emotions are running ahead of your reason. That’s okay. It’s a sign that you need to strengthen your practice. So, how do you move forward? By accepting that she was never truly yours to begin with. By recognizing that her leaving is not a reflection of you, but of her own unresolved past. And most importantly, by realizing that this is just another trial in life—a chance to strengthen your wisdom and resilience. Let this experience refine you, not define you. </blockquote>

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